Charismatic, good-looking, selfish, and pretentious people plague ministries by their unaligned influence and multiplying others who seek to derail the mission, vision and values.
Bentley from the Bachelorette deceived Ashley and nearly caused my wife (and me) to attack the screen on several occasions. His interactions reminded me of many people I have come across in ministry who have charming personalities but impure motives for being involved.
A few ways to discern whether you have a Bentley on your hands:
- Asks for a leadership position right away before demonstrating any commitment.
- Builds a following of others (usually young/immature) that promote a different agenda.
- Has a strong but unaligned take on a theological or soteriological issue.
- Passive agressive behavior.
As a leader I was most tempted to empower a Bentley when the present reality of my ministry was not meeting me expectations or struggling in a critical area. These types of people certainly bring a temporary lift but within a few months their influence is more negative than positive.
This short video interview with Ashley reveals how easy it is to be deceived, and to let yourself become deceived: